A Quick Guide to Swinging

A Quick Guide to Swinging


If you’ve ever wondered about the world of swinging, it’s time to give it a try. The fear of rejection is what holds most people back, but in reality there’s nothing to worry about. It’s easy to meet other couples who want to explore their sexuality with you and your partner while having fun at the same time. Here are some tips:

Don’t be afraid of rejection

  • You will be rejected by people at some point in your life.
  • It’s ok to be rejected!
  • How do you deal with rejection?

Get to know people first

You may feel shy or awkward at first, but you’ll get used to it quickly and most people are kind and understanding. Once you’re comfortable, remember that only you can decide what is right for your body and mind. If a situation doesn’t feel right for any reason at all, trust your instincts and say something! If someone crosses boundaries with you (and this does happen), speak up immediately so the problem doesn’t escalate into something worse.

Remember: no one gets hurt if everyone has fun! Be respectful of other people’s boundaries—especially if they say no—and always check in with how others are feeling before doing anything intimate together. You’re likely going to get asked a lot of questions about yourself because swinging parties are about getting to know new people in an intimate setting—remembering this will help put everyone more at ease. And finally…if anyone gives off any red flags or otherwise makes you uncomfortable in any way (including just being boring), let them know they should talk with another couple who might be more compatible with their interests instead!

Take your time. There’s no need to rush!

There’s no need to rush! Take your time and enjoy the experience. The more you get to know people, the more comfortable you will feel.

Set the mood

Before you start, make sure the room is warm and cozy. Soft music is a good addition to the mood, as are candles or other lighting. If you’re feeling adventurous, try adding some incense or a few drops of essential oil to the air. This will give your guests an added sensory experience!

If you’ve never been to a swingers party before, consider starting with something light like coffee or wine (or both). The idea here is to get relaxed and ready for some fun!

Be upfront about your limits

It’s important to be upfront with the other party-goers about your boundaries and limits. This can feel intimidating, but it’s the only way to ensure everyone has a good time. If you’re not sure what you’re comfortable doing, ask someone else who has been to similar events in the past or check online for advice. No matter how well you know your partner(s), it’s always best if both of you know what each other wants out of swinging parties before attending them together. There will always be some risk involved in meeting new people; don’t let that keep you from having fun! If any situation makes you uncomfortable or freaks out, leave immediately—it’s better not to take risks when it comes to your own physical safety or mental health (and no one needs an STD).

It’s not as hard as you think it is.

Swinging is not for everyone, but it is a lifestyle choice that many people have successfully adopted. Swinging requires a certain level of self-confidence, open-mindedness and comfort with your body and sexuality. You must be prepared to make mistakes along the way, but also know when to ask questions and say “no”. If you do find yourself in an uncomfortable situation during your first swing party or event, remember it’s OK to leave!


Swinging is a great way for couples to explore their sexuality and get closer together. It’s not just about sex, but about bringing people together in a safe environment where everyone feels comfortable sharing their desires and fantasies with others who are also willing to share. The best thing about it is that there will always be new people coming into the scene so there’s never a shortage of fresh faces!